The selfish sound of me trying to justify going to disneyland Paris…. Without Oscar.
Here’s the thing, I know all too well that ‘once you have a baby it’s not about you any more’
Trust me.. I know when I go for a shit and there’s a little person demanding to play in the bathroom with me.
I know when doing a crappy cleaning job instead of filling my full potential just because the hours fit perfectly for childcare.
I know its all about Oscar now. Oscar is.. The be all and end all of our lives. That being said, it doesn’t mean as parents and a couple we can’t put ourselves first sometimes.
I’ve done a few holidays now with Oscar and truly learnt that a holiday with a baby is not a real holiday at all.. There’s no after pool nap, there’s no staying out til god knows what time being pissed off the shitty all inclusive or having embarrassingly loud sex with your balcony door open (just kidding to all my family reading this ..)
And if I’m honest, I knew that’s what I’d signed up for and Oscar out weighs all that with love + happiness (and bla bla bla bla)
But as boyfriend and girlfriend, we didn’t fall in love pairing socks and comparing prices of sudacrem and bepantham – so how can we stay in love doing just that?
Parenting and a relationship go hand in hand of course… But they are still separate and that means nurturing your relationship, fun theme park trips, a weekend away.. Maybe just a trip to the supermarket with a handbag instead of a change bag. Minus the mom guilt.
A good relationship makes a good mommy and daddy. So for those who aren’t sure whether to get a babysitter.. Hell do it. Do it once.. Do it again.. Do it until you feel like normal functioning humans again. Til you feel like the couple you were when you made that baby and i guarantee you,a good night sleep… Or lack of sleep for something other than a baby who’s dropped its dummy, will make you even better parents.